I trust my instincts, occasionally. Few years ago I used to trust my instincts all the time, sometimes beyond logic and science. It helped me one time, and I thought I am quite good at it. And so I decided to trust it all the time, but it game me failures and losses.
Therefore, through experience or through years I came to realise trusting your instincts can be helpful occasionally but not all the time. Give emphasis to science or logic too. Though sometimes instincts involve logic too.
What do you think about your instincts? Does it helps you all the times or sometimes?
I am currently reading Mindset by Dr Carol S Dweck.
It basically talks about two kinds of Mindset in people all around us.
Fixed Mindset
Growth Mindset
People with fixed Mindset only follow perfection and anything less than that is useless or meaningless to them. They believe that humans are born with certain abilities, skills or talent and their entire life is defined by those abilities.
From their childhood they are afraid of failures and they always want to have an ultimate level of success. When they don’t get that, they pretend to have that ,so that the others don’t criticize them. Hence, they are very much afraid of criticism, making them unlearners.
While on the other hand, people with growth mindset don’t believe in perfection. They take failures as opportunities to learn more and they give more emphasis to knowledge, experience and growth . They don’t believe that one failure or two can define your entire lifetime and that’s why they are always striving for more.
Even if they get success they don’t stop and continue to learn more to add more skills in their arsenal. They are always hungry for knowledge, making them lifelong learners . This is the kind of mindset we should always have, no matter what our age is.
This is what I am getting from the book, still a long way to finish the book. I hope this post will inspire readers to read the book. Those who have already read it , I would like to know their thoughts on the book in the comments section
We associate everything in our lives with time. Our brains are wired to differentiate the events in our lives because of time, or is it really?
Something which has already happened belongs to the past, something which is happening now belongs to the present, and our dreams or desires may reside in the future. Past, present and future are the landmarks or milestones of time or we can say time may not exist without them.
We are quite fortunate to have an understanding of time. But it has also dominated us , created doubts in our mind for the future, brought tears because of our past, and hardly made us live in the present when the past and future dominated us.
Imagine, there is no past and future and so there is no time. Everything and every event exists in the ‘Now’ or present, there would be no worries, no regrets, no grief and no restlessness. But at the same time there will be no memories, no desires, no tears , no life and even death. What would be the meaning of our existence? Just a vague presence in the cosmos.
And so past and future,life and death, the circle of time brings meaning in our lives . Without it nothing makes sense or rather there will be no reason to live or exist.
Calmness is not a weakness but a superpower to stay strong in the toughest of conditions. It makes you think clearly amidst a cacophony of noises and react in the most effective way.
Calmness gives you strength in the moments of disaster and grief. It gives you control over your heart and mind ,and prevents you from reacting in an erratic manner.
So cultivate this habit of pausing before reacting and detaching yourself from all the disturbing noises of the world.
Our minds are coded and programmed by society in a way that we always hope for a bright future, without doing anything substantial in the present.
In fact there is no future if we don’t sow its seeds in the “Now”. It’s like growing a plant by sowing a seed ,watering and taking care of it every single day. Then hoping for the outcome.
Hope resides in the coming ‘Now’ . If you have done your part in the present then you can expect everything bright to follow. I am always excited to face the fruit of my hardwork though I don’t hope much as I haven’t always got the desired result.
Contentment is my only solace where I take a deep breath and say to myself, ” maybe one day”.
Do you spend more time thinking about the future or the past? Why?
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Our brains are coded to dwell too much on our past and future. Time is the most impacting dimension that defines our life. It is up to us to either become a slave of it or hold its strings and dictate terms.
There is no denying the fact that the past teaches us many things and gives us precious memories ( that eventually make us humans). But it is highly elusive, it plays tricks with us when we commit the mistake of identifying with it. We destroy our future by connecting it with our negative past. Even this destroys our present
Yes, it’s difficult to get rid of negative things of the past but there is always a way to do that and I always try to deduce methods to do that. The magic lies in the present. You certainly have something to get fully engrossed in the ‘ Now’. You can take inspiration from the past and use that to your advantage.
What you should ignore , avoid or forget of the past
Embarassing moments
Fear generating moments
Failures that could have been avoided (including silly mistakes)
Regrets
Accidents
Emotional moments especially the loss of someone
What you should embrace of the past
Success but don’t make it infuse arrogance, in fact learn from it and use it as driving force in the present
Failures to learn from mistakes
Good memories of your loved ones
knowledge you acquired
Anything that can boost your productivity in the present
Well, apart from this, try to get fully engrossed in the present. The best way to do that is by doing something which you love most. When you are totally lost in the ‘Now’ in doing something which you enjoy then you hardly think about your past or future. You totally forget about time and make your present as productive as possible.
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